Shaadi Waadi

I heard 6 guys got engaged in my company in last 15 days. Phew! That's a large number. Not huge, but large at least. One particular guy's story struck me hard, right on my face. He is the same guy who was looking for someone, along with his parents of course, when I had a talk with him around 20 days back. In just two weeks, he told me he is engaged.

Wondering how the events would have turned out, his family going to her family, he trying to look at her, she shy, he asking for water and trying the glass base while drinking water to look at her so that it is not obvious that he wants to stare at her (may be he would have done that daily on the streets), they left lone for some time, he asking are you ready for marriage and instantly falling in love with her (duh!).

Their parents agreeing on caste, financial potency as well as gestures (which must have matched theirs') and bingo, all set. I am amazed how someone can choose a life partner for himself/herself by just meeting a couple of times and talking. I mean, I couldn't even understand a guy forget a gal in so many years. There are zillion of situations that you face in everyday living and the promise to LIVE together is facing those together and that too without panic, and to add to it, with love.

I have heard stories where a 10 year school time affair got converted to a marriage and then a divorce. I have heard stories, my Mom and Dad are a good example, where the couple met once and they lived happily ever after, after getting marriage that is. It doesn't seem to be a very viable scenario today. Financial, professional, social and even emotional independence have made people loners and they do not understand the taste that dependence can actually give them.

So what DOES NOT matter is:
- you met him/her once or twice (think love at first sight, Bollywood is ripe of such stories)
- you have been together for years (may be you will get bored and go for an extramarital affair)
- your frequency matches (forget frequency shrequency, its bullshit and the hz someday will be Khz. Also please keep out words like attitude, adjusting types, compromising etc. They all go down the flush once you get married. You only get more salt in food and more stink in socks if its not working)
- same caste (only for social acceptance? yes. for success of marriage? nope)
- age difference (I think of Sachin and Saif together, you got the drift right...)
- beauty (understandable yes for first few years and then what?)

We can go on and the list of "does not" matter will keep on growing. Asking the question upside down makes the question unanswerable for me as I have not been able to understand what DOES make a marriage successful.

To all my fellas out there, I wish you all luck and a happy married life. I would be in the bandwagon of married people sooner than I think and I know one thing about successful marriages: there are more successful ones than the failed ones. That does make me rejoice...